Move Beyond Self-Invalidation " data-medium-file="https:// data-large-file="https:// /any people who grow up in an invalidating environment gradually internalize invalidating messages about the self.
This may happen with a child who was never taught to trust his own competency or ability to take care of himself.
To adapt to this unhealthy and dysfunctional environment, the working relationship between his thoughts and feelings becomes twisted.
His emotional responses, emotional management, and emotional development will likely be seriously, and perhaps permanently, impaired.
this article by Darlene at Emerging from Broken on Self Validation for Emotional Healing from Abuse A sensitive child who is repeatedly invalidated becomes confused and begins to distrust his own emotions.
He fails to develop confidence in and healthy use of his emotional brain-- one of nature's most basic survival tools.
At a more complex level, a client who habitually self-invalidates may find validation itself...invalidating.
As adults, BPD individuals adopt the characteristics of the invalidating environment in which they grow up.
Looking to others for accurate reflections of reality and oversimplifying the ease of solving life’s problems characterize this self-invalidation.
When we are attacked, our survival instinct tells us to defend ourselves either through withdrawal or counter-attack.
Repeated withdrawal, though, tends to decrease our self-confidence and lead to a sense of powerlessness and depression.